Hi, I’m Jenni.
I’m a certified life coach and a spiritual director who’s been trained to work with women who are recovering from betrayal trauma. If you’re a woman who has discovered that your husband is a sex addict or that he has betrayed you (even if it’s “just” porn) and you are looking for inspiration, support in healing and direction in how to rise and find beauty after betrayal, I got ya.
I have been trained according to the Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) developed by the Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Trauma Specialists (APSATS). I am also nearing completion of a Masters in Spiritual Formation at the Episcopal Seminary of the Southwest and I am a poet, a wife, a mom and a mystic.
Most importantly, I am an ex-partner of a sex addict. My first D-Day (aka discovery) was in November 2012. It was a doozy. There were police involved. But you know what? I didn’t even think about leaving. Not for a second. I knew he was a sex addict, but I had no idea what that meant. I had no idea how or who to even ask for help – and I had already been in therapy for years!
I spent the next two and a half years fumbling around in the dark and in denial about how sick my ex-husband was. In the spring of 2015, I had another D-Day, and, at this point, I was ready to face the reality of what was happening in my marriage. However, I still felt desperate trying to find someone, anyone who could help me! I just wanted someone to tell me whether or not I should stay. I wanted someone to tell me whether or not my kids were safe.
In December of 2015, we finally had a formal therapeutic disclosure that lasted for two hours. In January 2016, I filed for divorce that took a year to become final. Those two years were the darkest years of my life.
And they were the rich, fertile soil for learning how to become the love of my own life. During those months, I learned the power of waking up every morning and choosing to be committed to me. My true transformation came in those dark moments when I wanted to go back (and tried to several times) but slowly learned how to do the deep, inner work that set me free from my past and set me up to become the woman I am today. That was the time when I finally had my comeback moment,, which leads me back to you.
What I most want you to know is that this is now your story. This is no longer about changing him or saving him. This is about saving you. This is your comeback moment when you are standing at the crossroads, ready to make that big, life-changing decision. This moment – is all about you.
I would be so honored to be a part of it. If you’d like to know more the ways I work with clients, then please check out my Work With Me page. Or just book your free call using the big red button below 🙂