For the woman healing from betrayal trauma who’s ready to reclaim and rediscover herself – this is for you!
- Are you finally done with over functioning to save your marriage and ready to finally focus on you?
- Have you been told that you’re codependent or tend to lose yourself in your relationships?
- Deep down, do you worry that you’ll never be able trust yourself again? Are you afraid of making the same mistakes all over again?
Beauty After Betrayal™ is my seven-week program for women healing from betrayal trauma and ready to feel alive, inspired and hopeful again. I have taken all my education and training as a life coach, a spiritual director and a yoga teacher and paired it with my own devastating experience and comeback story as a partner of a sex addict to create this seven-week journey of reclamation and rediscovery.
I don’t know if you knew this, but many actors will buy a script they love but wait until they are a certain age to play the role? Because they know that until then, they just aren’t ready to pull it off? That’s what Beauty After Betrayal™ is for me. This program is the epic role I was born to play, and let me tell you – I AM READY. If you are ready, too, and are serious about making the commitment to becoming the love of your life, then, by all means, read on!
“Women who have been through betrayal trauma understand the complexities of the process of healing from this painful discovery. You need connection. You need a tribe to help hold you up. You need a safe place. That is just what I found from Jenni Rochelle and the Beauty After Betrayal community: my safe place. The gifts that I have received are beyond my expectations. I received care, deep support, belly laughs, and celebrations of successes every step of the way. I am truly grateful.”
~ Jenn B
At this point in your journey, you have (mostly) come to terms with your past.
Now you get to create your new future.
I know that you have mourned (greatly) the self that was destroyed by your ex.
Now you get to develop a new self.
Your relationships have been tested and forever changed by his betrayal.
Now you get to build new relationships.
The old beliefs that gave meaning to your life have been challenged.
Now you get to decide what new beliefs you will carry with you.
Getting through the last few years of that relationship were intense. Often, you weren’t sure that you’d make it. Now that you are on the other side of it, I make up that right now you are both excited and terrified at the prospect of moving on. Now is the time to take all that time and energy you spent on your relationship and, instead, focus all of that time and energy and attention on you.
Even though you know that toxic relationship is over, you have big fears about whether there are any good men out there, whether you can trust yourself to pick one and, gulp, whether you are doomed to spend the rest of your life alone. The fears are so big that sometimes make you consider going back. (I can put that fear to bed right now. There is always more love for you.)
The best way to learn trust yourself and set those fears aside is to commit right and now to yourself above all others. You know that the most important thing you can do is focus on yourself because…
You want to feel happy again.
You want to feel joy again.
You want to feel loved, cared and cherished.
You want to have a great sex life.
You want to feel sexy, alive, desired, and adored.
You want to feel at peace and know that you can trust yourself.
Am I right?
Here’s the thing…the path to all of your desires…to have the life you’ve always dreamed of begins with you. Think of this journey as a spiral path that begins within your own heart. Learning to love, understand, and appreciate yourself is paramount to becoming the woman you’ve always wanted to be.
That’s why I am so freaking lit up excited to finally begin offering Beauty After Betrayal™: A Seven-Week Journey of Reclaiming and Rediscovering You. Early on in my own betrayal story, I knew that I would someday take the horror of what was happening to me and use it to help other women just like me heal.
Women just like you.
Your Journey Starts Here!
Want to know all the details? Let me break it down week by week…
Week 1: Welcome Home
Week 1 is dedicated to introductions, sharing stories (only as much as you feel safe to share) and creating the safe container to this transformative work. This first week sets the tone for the community that we will continue to co-create during our seven-week journey.
We will also take a vow to keep everything that is said in our sessions and private Facebook group private and commit to not sharing what happens or is said with anyone outside our group.
Week 2: You Will Nurture Somatic Resilience
This is the week you’ll devote time to developing a concrete list of boundaries to increase your sense of power, control, and self-protection.
Good boundaries are flexible enough to allow for growth while establishing the safety required to thrive in this new era of your life. They allow you to deepen the bonds with those you have come to trust.
Most importantly, boundaries are how you learn to trust yourself again – by showing up on your own behalf instead of constantly making concessions to maintain peace.
Speaking of peace – how often are you still getting triggered these days? Congratulations, you are a normal girl and your nervous system is doing a fantastic job of protecting you. However, we want to make sure you are in charge, not your triggers.
Week 3: You Will Uncover Your "Essensual" Self
Over the course of a lifetime, our true selves get slowly eroded away or covered up by societal expectations, inherited religious beliefs and the demands of our careers and our families.
In Week 3, you get to do the exciting and exploratory work of rediscovering what’s “essensual” to you. Yes, I totally made up that word to capture the idea that your sensuality and your sexuality have likely been shaped by values and beliefs that no longer serve you.
You may be surprised to learn how much of your life has been driven by things you don’t really care about!
Week 4: You Will Unpack Your Relational Pattern
At some point, you’ve probably been told that you are codependent or maybe even a love addict. I really hate those labels used to judge a certain set of behaviors – mostly women.
In Week 4, you will look at your relationship history to why why you started doing those behaviors in the first place (hint: childhood trauma), and clearly identify how you can begin to make different choices.
What happened to you was not your fault. However, looking backward and identifying the specific, self-defeating behaviors you need to change will allow you to create the life (and relationship) you desire and deserve.
Week 5: You Will Reconnect With Play & Pleasure
As you chart your past relationships’ history, you will likely be drawn to key memories from childhood. I’ve seen this happen time and time again.
Taking the time to repair your relationship with these younger, more vulnerable versions of you will provide key insights into how your adult relationships have been shaped by your childhood wounds.
In Week 5, you will reconnect with these lost parts of yourself by inviting them to reintegrate into wholeness through play and pleasure! These younger versions will guide you to the woman you were born to be – if you will listen to them.
Week 6: You Will Claim Your Comeback Story
I have been studying and researching trauma and how to recover from it for years. All the leaders in trauma-informed interventions point towards the importance of two things: embodiment and story.
From a place of safety and security, with a new appreciation for how your family of origin shaped you and guided by all the parts of your newly integrated self, we will begin to craft, write, journal, and express your personal narrative – your comeback story.
All of your newfound awareness will allow you to finally see the long, beautiful arc of your life. Don’t worry if you don’t consider yourself to be a writer. I will be there to guide you every step of the way.
Week 7: You Will Vision a New, Beautiful You
Now that you have done all the amazing work in weeks 1-6 and claimed your comeback story in month 5 – the sky is literally the limit! Our last week will be spent releasing any remaining limiting beliefs about who you are and what you deserve.
If you are ready, we turn our focus to future relationships you desire to create by getting crystal clear about how you want to feel, show up, be seen and known in this “new” relationship.
This is the juicy stuff. Yes, if you desire, we will talk about sex and pleasure and, most likely, provide you with sex re-education so that you can know and trust healthy sexuality when you experience it.
Plus These Bonuses!
In addition, here are the bonuses you’ll receive…
Bonus #1: Enneagram Assessment
The Enneagram is a spiritual tool that allows you to gain insight into the age-old question… “Why do I do the things I do?” The Enneagram has by far brought me the most self-awareness (and self-compassion) of all the tools I have studied.
That’s why you will kick-off your seven-week journey by taking the RHETI, which is my favorite Enneagram Assessment and my free gift to you as part of your Beauty After Betrayal program.
Bonus #2: Free, Private Coaching Session with Jenni
Because I want you to get as much transformation as possible during our seen weeks together, I gifting you a free, 50-minute private coaching session with me so that we can get down into the weeds of your personal growth.
Bonus #3: Jenni’s Online Dating Checklist
For those already on the dating scene, or at least thinking about it, this guide is based on my approach to dating (that for me, resulted in meeting her amazing husband!)
“Jenni’s energy, knowledge, compassion, and spirit are infectious; I cannot imagine a better guide to help explore yourself in order to heal and thrive. She has helped me identify my own strength and softness, and to manage the tension of nourishing both. I am more grounded, confident, free, and whole than I’ve ever been”
~ Erika S
Here’s what I am bringing to the table…
- Yoga Therapist
- Certified Life Coach from multiple disciplines
- Trained by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS)
- A Masters degree in Spiritual Formation from the Episcopal Seminary of the Southwest
- Poet, a mom, a wife, and a mystic
Most importantly I am an ex-partner of a sex addict. My first D-Day (aka discovery) was in November 2012. It was a doozy. There were police involved. But you know what? I didn’t even think about leaving. Not for a second. I knew he was a sex addict, but I had no idea what that meant. I had no idea how or who to even ask for help – and I had already been in therapy for years!
I spent the next two and a half years fumbling around in the dark and in denial about how sick my ex-husband was. In the spring of 2015, I had another D-Day, and, at this point, I was ready to face the reality of what was happening in my marriage. However, I still felt desperate trying to find someone, anyone who could help me! I just wanted someone to tell me whether or not I should stay. I wanted someone to tell me whether or not my kids were safe.
In December of 2015, we finally had a formal therapeutic disclosure that lasted for two hours. In January 2016, I filed for divorce that took a year to become final. Those two years were the darkest years of my life.
And they were the rich, fertile soil for learning how to become the love of my own life. During those months, I learned the power of waking up every morning and choosing to be committed to me. I had spent years being committed to my marriage and my kids. Still, the true transformation came in those dark moments when I wanted to go back (and tried to several times) but slowly learned how to do the deep, inner work that set me free from my past and set me up to become the Woman I am today.
Everything in the Beauty After Betrayal™ program is based on my work in those incredible years of my life. I can tell you with a wholehearted assurance that I would not trade the me I am today for anything. I wouldn’t change a single thing. My experience, strength, and hope are what I bring to the table, along with my commitment to holding that the same transformation is available for you.
I know I’m making some big claims here, but I believe in the power of the tools that I’ve carefully curated (and created) for Beauty After Betrayal™. Of course, most importantly, I believe in you. So, all that’s left for you to consider now is…
Are you ready to become the love of your life?
“Jenni has this really quirky, spiritual, creative presence, and she’s so empathetic. She can feel what you’re feeling, even in the virtual meetings, which at first I thought, ‘Oh my gosh, we have to do this virtually. Is this really going to help me? I need an actual person I need somebody who can give me a hug.’ But Jenni’s presence is like a virtual hug, seriously!”