Seriously though. I just recently started running a very limited number of ads on Facebook in an effort to raise awareness around my mission to provide support for women who are experiencing betrayal trauma as a result of their husband’s sex addiction or infidelity.
I’ve been promoting Surviving His Sex Addiction & Betrayal: A Guidebook for a Woman in the Desert, which the resource that I wish I’d had when I first discovered that my ex was a sex addict. You can download it for free at www.sexaddictdionguidebook.com.
I’ve also been hosting a Surviving His Sex Addiction & Betrayal live show on Facebook and Instagram every Sunday and, a few weeks ago, I started using the posts/videos from those live shows to create ads.
However, when I tried to create a new ad for this week’s show, which was all about whether or you will ever be happy again and the support that you need to recover from this trauma…
Facebook REJECTED my ads because they had ADULT CONTENT.
I mean, come on! It’s almost comical, right? Of course, I had to laugh out loud. Here I am trying to support women whose lives have been upended/destroyed due to sex addiction and I think that one thing most sex addicts have in common is online pornography and my ads were rejected because I used the words sex addiction!
Part of why I’ve taken up this cause is because I want to reduce the shame around this terrible disease and around sexuality in general. Most women I know that discover that their husband is a sex addict or has betrayed them feel so much shame about their husband’s behavior that they don’t want anyone to know about it.
Is this true for you? It was for me. I was so ashamed. It was like I was the one who had done something wrong or that it was my fault – even though, of course, it wasn’t. Still, I didn’t want to tell anyone and, yet, I also NEEDED to tell someone. I needed to talk about it. ALOT.
Being able to share your story is a HUGE part of your healing process. If you’re like I was, you have an almost compulsive need to tell your story over and over again. You may be worried that the few people in your life that you can tell are sick of hearing about it. But you still can’t stop yourself from retelling is because your brain is struggling to make sense of it.
You can’t believe that it’s your story.
Honestly, a huge part of what I do as coach is just LISTEN to you tell your story as many times as you need to tell it. You need a safe space to do this without fearing that you’re burning your loved ones out.
The sad truth is that I did burn some people out. Not everyone is equipped to sit with such suffering. It doesn’t make them bad people. It just makes them human. And it’s why you need additional support right now. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again…
You need a choir of angels.
You won’t need it forever, but you really do need it right now. I seriously had two therapists, two coaches and a weekly women’s group! They all offered difference pieces of the healing puzzle that I needed to solve for myself. They are the reason I went from surviving to thriving and to being happier today than I ever thought I’d be again.
I’ve love to be a part of your choir of angels and that’s why I’m super excited to announce that I’m going to be partnering with Sarah Morales (who was my coach) in an online, group coaching program. We are calling ourselves Two Hearts Coaching:
Because two hearts are better than one.
We will be meeting via Zoom every Friday. Sarah and I will alternate between leading the groups and bringing our two distinct, but equally valuable skill sets to the table. The price will be very reasonable as we grow the program. Plus, you will also get ongoing support from both of us via Voxer, a messaging ap.
If you are interested in learning more, send me a note and I will get you set up with a quick phone call to make sure it’s a good fit. If you’ve been on the fence about working with me privately, this a great opportunity to get your feet wet. But don’t worry, I still have a couple more spots for private coaching if you were just about to pull the trigger. (Man, am I full of metaphors today or what?)
Okay – that’s all for this week. Until next time, I hope that this new decade is treating you right so far. Because you deserve to be treated like the queen that you are. I know you don’t feel like a queen right now, but you are. I will hold onto your crown until you’re ready. Until next time…
P.S. I was able to request a manual review of my ad copy by Facebook and they were approved. Well, one of them was anyway. Here’s to causing trouble in 2020!