Here’s to a Fully Embodied New Year!

Last night on the way to my best dreamgirl’s house, I listened to a podcast interview with Bessel van der kolk, the author of The Body Keeps Score and lifelong studier of trauma.  Bessel began working with Vietnam vets in the 1970s and was part of...

Seasons Greetings From the Desert

Hello, dear ones.  I know that I often rely on the desert as a metaphor for the experience/aftermath of discovering that your husband is a sex addict.  But this Christmas…I am writing to you from a literal one. Jeff and I are without kiddos...

Why Do We Laugh at Painful Things?

Are You Normalizing His Abusive or Addictive Behaviors?Last week I told the story of my initial discovery at a local event called Story Department that is hosted by the Austin Bat Cave, a nonprofit that offers writing programs for underprivileged kids.  I...

Are You Ready to Tell the Truth?

I just want to take a moment this week and talk about WHY I am doing what I am doing.  I want to explain the reasoning behind my somehow becoming the poster child for talking about sex addiction. Or, at least, a spokeswoman for partners of sex addicts.I know...