Who’s ready to talk about WHY WE STAY in relationships after betrayal? Sweet! Because that’s what I’m diving into on the latest episode of the Beauty After Betrayal™ Podcast.
I love to talk about the classic question of Should I Stay or Should I Go (who else is singing The Clash song in their heads right now??) — and why it’s so fucking hard to make that decision!
I love to talk about it because I know. I sat there in that agonizing place for so many months… for years! And even after I thought I had decided, I would second-guess myself (i.e. “maybe he’s better now.”)
I have come to realize that this is all part of the grief/bargaining process. And it’s completely normal.
Very rarely have my clients had a simple and straightforward process of going through discovery, then jumping straight to washing their hands of the partnership. Most of us go through a much more nuanced and complicated process, and that’s what we talk about in this episode:
Why we might choose to stay.
Why we might choose to leave.
Why it’s so hard to decide.
Why we change our mind multiple times throughout the process.
And we can tell ourselves that we know how we would respond in such a moment, and be a little bit self-righteous about it, and even be a little judgmental about people who choose to stay in relationships after infidelity.
You don’t know how you’re going to respond until it happens to you. Until you are faced with the full weight of what it means to disrupt your family and friendship circles. To blow up your entire life.
I invite you to listen to this episode with curiosity and compassion. For yourself. For a loved one who might be struggling with this.
Let’s dive into these murky waters together… see you there.
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