In this episode, we take a deep dive into creating safety and boundaries-an absolute essential first step in recovery after betrayal.
According to Judith Herman’s book, Trauma & Recovery, recovery from trauma occurs in three stages:
- Stage 1 – Safety
- Stage 2 – Remembrance & Mourning
- Stage 3 – Reconnection
In this episode, we take a deep dive into creating safety and boundaries-an absolute essential first step in recovery after betrayal. When you experience trauma, your world has been robbed of protection. The ground has been ripped out from beneath you, and you might struggle to find stability, security, and safety in your life.
Boundaries create safety. Refusing to tolerate destructive behaviors and gaslighting is vital for creating safety. In the early stages after betrayal, you’re triggered all the time. You’re hypervigilant, continually thinking about what you learned during discovery. Over some time, boundaries can start to lessen these triggers.
If you or someone you love needs some detailed resources for setting boundaries and rebuilding your life after betrayal, check out my resources below.
I love you all,
- Have you recently discovered that your husband is a sex addict?
- Or are you struggling to cope with the emotional fallout of his infidelity and betrayal?
- Do you know you need help but feel overwhelmed with shock and don’t know where to start?