TRIGGER WARNING: In this episode, I explore the conflicting, confusing messages in the media around sex addiction which have been exacerbated over the last few weeks with the March spa shootings in Atlanta.

We explore the interrelated issues of shame, sex, addiction, race, trauma, and religion. In Atlanta, these issues intertwine in a messy, convoluted way that manifested in a horrific hate crime and eight deaths. After the shootings, law enforcement tried to explain that the shootings were not racially motivated but due to the suspect’s sex addiction.

When we don’t heal our trauma, we continue to express it. Blame, shame, scapegoating and gaslighting comes from all sides–pastors, priests, therapists, and in this case– law enforcement.


Resmaa Menakem:

Robin DiAngelo:

Dr. Omar Minwalla & The Institute for Sexual Health:


My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem:

White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo:

The Secret Sexual Basement by Dr. Omar Minwalla:

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