Justice for the Betrayed Woman

Justice for the Betrayed Woman

When my life was devastated by my husband's betrayal, I wanted justice. It took years, but I realized, through deep inner work, that justice wasn't outside of me, waiting for me to find it. Justice was inside, waiting for me to reclaim it when I reclaimed the parts of...

My Journey to Rise in Beauty

My Journey to Rise in Beauty

Have you spent years surviving your partner's betrayal...and now you're ready to rediscover and reclaim all the lost parts of yourself? My journey to leaving my toxic, emotionally abusive, unhealthy marriage was rough. It took many years to get to the place where I...

Are You Ready to Rise in Beauty?

Are You Ready to Rise in Beauty?

Rise in Beauty, what do I mean by that? I've always loved the song "The Beauty Way" by Eliza Gilkyson. I have listened to and loved that song for years but only recently became aware that "The Beauty Way" is the name of a Navajo prayer read at the end of a blessing...

Do We Dare Have Hope For The New Year?

I've seen posts going around this week cautioning us against making claims that 2021 will be the best year ever! And suggesting that we might jinx ourselves. But I just can't buy into that mindset because being a messenger of hope and healing is at the heart of...

Five Tips for Surviving Your First Solo Christmas

Welcome to my top five tips for surviving your first solo Christmas! Let's start with an intention….Don't worry about getting it all right. It's not going to be perfect. Let it be messy and glorious, which is its own kind of perfection.  Tip #...

The Year of Embodiment & Beauty

Thanksgiving weekend was the eighth anniversary (or "trauma-versary," as I like to call it) of the day I discovered my now ex-husband was a sex addict. As dramatic, life-changing, and shocking as it was, I never thought about leaving him, not for a second. I...

Why Is It So Hard to Ask for What You Need?

This week, I am sharing another quote from my Survival Songbook. The song "Brave" by Sara Bareilles was one of my personal anthems for a while. In it, she says:"Let your words be anything but empty. Why don't you tell him the truth?"The question I pose to you (and...

Are You Gaslighting Yourself?

This past Sunday, I shared the first part of my story on the Surviving His Sex Addiction & Betrayal show.  I did this because I often get questions about how long it took me to decide to get divorced. As I shared on Sunday, two and a half years passed...

How Do You Know When to Leave?

Hello, beautiful souls in the desert. These weeks in quarantine are hard for everyone, I know.  But I think they might be especially hard if you are currently quarantined with a spouse who has broken your heart, betrayed your trust and left you...

When You’re Ready to Divorce a Sex Addict

I’ve got big news for you. Now more than ever, you need to surround yourself with support.  On top of the shock of discovering your husband is a sex addict, you are now faced with a world-wide pandemic event unlike anything we’ve ever seen...

5 Simple Steps When You Are Overwhelmed

As a betrayal trauma specialist, I work with women who are undergoing very personal trauma in their most intimate relationships. Over the last few weeks, this very personal work has become  universal. As a human collective, we're experiencing worldwide, daily...

How to Create Safety During Unsafe Times

This week in the LoveLetter, we’re  talking about safety, which I know is a little ironic. We are living in very uncertain times...watching the news more than is healthy, the kids are at home unexpectedly and life generally feels disrupted and unpredictable.If...