4 Ways to Trust Yourself Again

4 Ways to Trust Yourself Again

After we've been betrayed, we are oftentimes filled with the fear that we cannot trust ourselves. Because of the discovery that we've been blind or unaware of the betrayal, we begin to doubt our ability to make good decisions. That's why this week I want to share with...

Your Big Sexy Comeback Starts Today!

Your Big Sexy Comeback Starts Today!

In the early stages of betrayal trauma, we begin by focusing on healing, which means learning to create safety, set boundaries in relationships, and to regulate our nervous system. This is true whether we stay in our relationship or leave it. This phase can last...

3 Keys To Finding Love & Hope Again

3 Keys To Finding Love & Hope Again

If you've recently come out of a toxic relationship, you may feel used to settling and feeling hopeless. I sure did. How I felt and thought about myself in my previous relationships breaks my heart. I was so impacted by someone not choosing me over and over again. My...

Shifting Our Beliefs About Finding Good Men

Shifting Our Beliefs About Finding Good Men

Today I want to share with you 3 ways to shift your beliefs about finding good men. Honestly, I started doing this work 30 years ago, but it doesn't have to take that long for you! Especially if you have the right person, life, or love coach. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink....

You Are Worthy of an Upgrade

You Are Worthy of an Upgrade

I don’t know if you follow me on social media, but last Friday I shared that I got a major diamond ring upgrade. In the post I shared how I wasn't sure whether I would post about it or not because…well, because I was afraid of being judged. Of course, really, I was...

Trusting Again After Betrayal

Trusting Again After Betrayal

Today I want to touch on how hard it can be to trust again after betrayal. Trusting yourself AND learning to trust somebody else is hard, deep work. I'm not going to tell you that I'm all good now and the work is over. I still (sometimes) freak out over something my...

Reframing the Lies We Tell Ourselves

Reframing the Lies We Tell Ourselves

Last week I talked about how to recognize the 5 lies that keep us stuck in life and love. We learned how to identify these 5 lies, and how they keep us stuck in old and unhealthy patterns. We know that these lies keep us in toxic relationships, enable our...

The 5 Lies Keeping You Stuck in Life & Love

The 5 Lies Keeping You Stuck in Life & Love

If you're reading this, it's likely that your ex/ soon-to-be ex/ almost ex/ definitely ex has betrayed you. I know that what you're dealing with is traumatic and life-changing. And my heart goes out to you. Deeply. My goal in life is to work with women like you, and...

When We’re Triggered by Pleasure

When We’re Triggered by Pleasure

Last week I wrote to you about the idea that we need pleasure to heal because when we feel pleasure, our brains and bodies make all the good chemicals and hormones that we need to feel GOOD...that we need to feel HEALTHY. I had a woman write back to me asking how this...

Why MORE is the Key to Your Healing

Why MORE is the Key to Your Healing

Greetings from the Bahamas! Jeff and I are spending a week in paradise to celebrate our wedding anniversary and me finally finishing my master's degree! Even though I am officially on vacay, I made a massive connection for myself this week that I wanted to share with...

5 Simple Steps When You Are Overwhelmed

5 Simple Steps When You Are Overwhelmed

As a betrayal trauma specialist, I work with women who are undergoing very personal trauma in their most intimate relationships. As a human collective, we’re experiencing ongoing worldwide trauma. Everything I teach needs to be practiced by everyone (including me)......

You Can Still Have Your Happily Ever After

You Can Still Have Your Happily Ever After

First, I want to take this opportunity to celebrate and announce that I have finally completed my Master of Arts in Spiritual Formation. This was a five-year labor of love for me that showed me just how strong I am when I put my mind to something! I know that...