An 8-Week Private Group Mentorship to Embrace Your Right to Great Sex, Big Love and a Beautiful, Healthy Life After Betrayal
I know that this path is not the path you wanted. At this point in your life, you thought you’d be happily married, living in the house of your dreams with 3 kids and a dog.
Instead, thanks to your ex’s betrayal, you have suddenly found yourself alone and scared. You thought you were finally done with dating when you got married. And, yet, here you are. Single. At your age. Now what?
Right now, if you’re like all the other women I’ve worked with, you might be wondering…
Is this it?
Am I just supposed to live alone now?
Have I used all my chances for love..for pleasure…for true intimacy and connection?
Or maybe you’ve realized that you’ve never really experienced true intimacy or really felt the security that comes from being cherished in a healthy and nurturing relationship.
Maybe you think that’s just not possible. Well, I am living proof that it is. At the age of 48, I found myself divorced for the third time. Gulp.
Still stings a bit to say that out loud. It certainly messed with my head and my self-worth at the time.
Not to mention that I wasn’t sure that I ever wanted to have sex again – much less get married again!
Spoiler alert: I met the most amazing, beautiful, sexy, successful man
and I have never been so well loved. Or laid.
Oh, yes, I said it. Because I also know that in spite of your ex’s betrayal and all the damage that it did to your self-worth and your sexuality, you still want (and deserve) big love and great sex!
I get that you may not be ready for that TODAY but my guess is that you do want that someday.
Before we dive into all of that again, you’ve got some stuff to sort out for yourself first. Right? Like…
How do I learn to trust myself (or someone else) again?
How do I figure out who (or whether!) I want to date?
How do I know what healthy sex and intimacy looks and feels like?
I know you have questions and I, to be honest, have some of the answers. I don’t have all of them.
Because what I believe to be more important for you than just textbook answers, which don’t really exist when it comes to love and sex anyway, is that you need a loving, safe and supportive community for you to ask your questions and find your own answers.
You need sisterhood. Not just any sisterhood but the kind that comes only from connecting with and being seen and witnessed by women who are walking the same path as you.
Welcome to Your Big, Sexy Comeback!
This eight-week private group mentorship is for the woman who has found herself single again and healing from betrayal trauma. In other words, you have an ex (or soon to be) who was unfaithful.
That infidelity can look like one affair, multiple affairs, “just porn” or full blown sex addiction. Regardless of the specifics of your ex’s behaviors, the devastating effects on you have been the same = betrayal trauma.
While you still may be grieving and healing from his betrayal, you are also starting to accept and maybe even be a little bit excited at the idea of finally being able to move on.
You might not be on that dating app yet, but you have been thinking about it.
Maybe you’re not sure about getting into another relationship yet but you’re ready for the next, right step.
You know in your heart that next right step includes work yet to be done on yourself. On who you are now after his betrayal and how do you allow yourself to embrace your right to big love, great sex and a beautiful, healthy life?
This eight-week private group mentorship is JUST FOR YOU. Read on to find out all the juicy details!
“I found out that my husband of twelve years was having an affair and throughout the next months of trauma, indecision, and ultimately divorce, Jenni was the one person I could count on. She was there when I needed someone who understands the trauma a situation like this causes. She was there when I was lonely, sad, mad, terrorized, and questioning. She made me laugh, helped me understand this (shitty) process, and reminded me that I was strong even when I felt like everything was crumbling. The best part about Jenni? She listens without judgment. I can say whatever needs to be said and trust that she will be there again the next time I need someone to be present in a conversation. What a gift.”
~ Amy M
First of all, why sexy?
Here’s the thing…if you had told me a few years ago that I would be leading an online mentorship program for women healing from betrayal on how/when/whether to date and maybe even have (gasp!) healthy sex, I would have told you that you were smoking something!
And yet…my personal journey of healing and all the beautiful souls I’ve had the pleasure of coaching have clearly called me to this place.
I make up that you desperately want to talk about whether you can trust yourself (or someone else) enough to ever have sex. I know that you have so many questions about intimacy AND I know that it’s hard enough for any woman to claim her authentic sexuality but for a woman that’s experienced sexual betrayal trauma? The stakes are even higher. The road feels even rockier.
Don’t worry. I’ve got you. That’s why we’re here. Together we are going to help you take the next step towards a healthy, beautiful life that includes big love and great sex – and it is all going to be on your terms!
Here’s the thing that I truly want to drive home. Not only do you deserve love and healthy sex, learning to allow yourself pleasure will skyrocket your healing process.
Yes, you read that right! Our brains and bodies NEED pleasure to make all those juicy hormones and good-feeling chemicals to heal from the trauma of betrayal.
This is one of the things about betrayal trauma that makes me the craziest! His sexual betrayal has interrupted your ability to receive (and give) pleasure. Pleasure that you need to heal.
That’s why I am so passionate about this program and diving into these waters that, quite frankly, still leave me feeling a little queasy!
When it comes to pleasure, we are all always on the edge of growth here. Let’s keep pushing those boundaries together!
“The validation I received in telling my story in group brought so much healing. It is comforting to know that women warriors have blazed the path for me and I am not alone! Jenni Rochelle creates a beautiful space that encourages me to grow at my pace and accepts me where I am when I don’t feel ready. She let’s me have space to figure out when I am making decisions that don’t serve me. If you are thinking about joining and having your own Big Sexy Comeback, don’t wait! You are so worth it!”
What is Your Big Sexy Comeback?
Your Big, Sexy Comeback is specifically created for the woman who is healing from betrayal trauma.
I know that there are other coaches out there with massive followings and their own schools. While these programs may touch on healing from betrayal trauma, it is not their main focus.
Those other programs may feel like just a little too much for you right now. They may feel like they push you too far too fast.
Every woman enrolled in this private group mentorship is healing from betrayal trauma.
Therefore, every session is anchored in creating a virtual container where you feel safe enough to do this vulnerable work.
I have been trained in the Multi-Dimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM) developed by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialist (APSATS) and have spent hundreds of hours working with women just like you.
I also have a Masters in Spiritual Formation where I spent two years studying how to care for the souls of survivors of betrayal trauma and developed a curriculum for training faith leaders and communities on how to stop re-traumatizing us.
That’s what I am uniquely prepared to work with women who are still experiencing symptoms of PTSD, betrayal trauma, and what others call codependency but I call a myth. (I’ll save that rant for a later date!)
I know this first step can feel scary because I’ve walked the path before you and because I have helped other women walk the path, too.
But if you’re willing to show up and share, I assure you that the risk will be so worth the rewards!
In terms of big love and dating, we will look at how your betrayal has left you with beliefs that make you question whether you’ll ever love or be loved again.
We will help you identify and shift those beliefs.
Also, in this private group mentorship, you will get clear on how your sexuality and your ability to receive and give pleasure has been impacted by your ex’s betrayal. We will do this by making an honest inventory of how this is happening for you.
We will develop tools for managing those impacts.
However, before you even met your ex, your views about sex, pleasure and intimacy were limited by societal, religious and relational expectations.
We will uncover what your beliefs and desires are and release everyone else’s.
Finally, more than just healthy sex, we will also be covering how to create real intimacy, how to receive love and pleasure and how to maintain healthy, mutual relationships!
Oh my lord. I can’t tell you how many books and articles I have read and courses I have taken on this subject. Truly, sex has been fascinating to me ever since I was a little girl growing up in Abilene, Texas.
A little girl who was raised to be ashamed of her own body and sexuality. A little girl who was taught not to trust men or count on them in any way.
This set me up for a decades long struggle to become comfortable with having sex and receiving pleasure.
I know that I am not alone in being raised to feel shameful and disconnected from my body. I know that I am not the only one who was robbed of years of intimacy and healthy sex!!
To make it worse…
Did you know that when we experience pleasure, Queen P (you know who I’m talking about) tells our brains to make endorphins, oxytocin serotonin and dopamine? And she tells our bodies to make estrogen, progesterone and testosterone??
This is because our bodies are so wise and Queen P is like our second brain. She is connected to our conscious, unconscious, hypothalamus, neocortex and nervous system.
This is why over 40% of women who experience betrayal trauma report symptoms of sexual trauma PRIOR to discovering the betrayal.
Prior. To. Discovery.
Forget your gut and learn to listen to your queen.
In Your Big, Sexy Comeback, you will uncover your beliefs and face fears (that don’t actually belong to you) about sex, dating and relationships so that you can feel safe enough to take the next step towards love, intimacy and a healthy, beautiful life. Of course, all that begins with the relationship you have with yourself!
You will also be given the opportunity to grieve with the support of your sisters in the private group mentorship, what living with those beliefs and fears have cost you. We will grieve what your ex’s betrayal cost you.
You will then learn what it means to dwell inside your own body again, which so many of us struggle to do after betrayal.
You will uncover your unique heart and soul desires when it comes to love and sex and relationships and everything.
You will learn how to heal your body and mind through receiving pleasure, which doesn’t necessarily mean sexual pleasure.
You will learn to trust yourself (and, therefore, others) through using your voice to set boundaries and to ask for what you want.
You will learn how to cultivate intimacy and mutuality in relationships by learning how to listen to your body’s own, natural cues and knowing what intimacy actually looks like.
Finally, with your sisters in the mentorship as witnesses, you will take a vow to commit to never settling for less than your heart and soul desires. Period.
“Jenni is present, trustworthy, loving and empowered. She is one of my most trusted people. I know that sex addiction is still a relatively taboo subject…if you are experiencing this in your life, I encourage you to reach out to her for validation and support.”
Who is it for?
Your Big, Sexy Comeback is for the woman who has experienced sexula betrayal trauma and is ready (mostly) to move on. You are either separated, divorcing or divorced but, more importantly, you are tired of talking about his betrayal. You know that you are done with that relationship but you’re not sure what’s next.
You want to believe that there is more love but you don’t quite believe it yet. You never thought you’d have to date again but you know you will have to if you want love again.
And, despite being scared that you’re too old or too damaged, you’re just the teeniest bit excited about the opportunity for a do-over.
This time you want to be sure that you get it “right” but you’re not quite sure yet what “right” means for you.
You have so, so many questions! About trusting and dating and intimacy and how the heck is any of that possible again after all that you’ve been through?
And, yet, some part of you believes that it is or you wouldn’t be reading this page right now.
You are self-motivated. You are passionate. You have dedicated that last few years to your marriage, your kids and your job. In all that dedication, you have lost what matters most: YOU.
Let’s reclaim YOU. Let’s honor YOU. Let’s dedicate ourselves to YOU finally making the big, sexy comeback that YOU deserve!
“Today, I have come full circle of my pain to growth journey. I have needed “my women” every step of the way. I know that I have a group that will always understand me and be there for times of need for me in the future. I will have setbacks and fear someday in the future but for now, I get to celebrate the growth I have accomplished with the support of my Beauty After Betrayal community. ”
~ Jen B.
Want to know all the details? Let me break it down for you …
Week One: Creating the Safe Container For This Vulnerable Work
- You have a right to ask for what you need to feel safe.
- We begin our journey together by creating a safe container in which we can do our own work.
- We will take a solemn oath to maintain the safety and sacredness of our sisterhood.
- This week we take a daring look at how our sexuality and ability to form and maintain secure attachments has been impacted by our sexual betrayal trauma.
- We will answer the questions: Love/sex/intimacy is…and Love/sex/intimacy is like…
- We will uncover the beliefs/fears that we have about what it means to be a sexual being.
- This week we name what his betrayal has cost you
- Let’s name what living with someone’s ideas/beliefs about intimacy has cost you.
- We learn how to EMBODY our own grief that it moves through us
- This week we take up the revolutionary act of reclaiming our bodies
- We will learn practices for living more fully embodied through movement
- We will practice listening to the subtle cues that our body uses to speak to us
- We will create specific goals for each area we want to work on
- We focus on how we want to FEEL and how we will know when reached our goal
- We also dive deep into WHY we need pleasure in our lives in terms of hormones, brain function and more
- Advocating on our own behalf is how we learn to trust ourselves again
- This week we identify areas in your relationships where you are making concessions.
- We also talk about the art of flirting this week and focus on the healthy kind versus the unhealthy kind.
- What does intimacy mean to you? Have you ever truly experienced it?
- This week we look at how you’ve shown up in your past or current relationships.
- We talk about attachment styles and ways to nurture healthy relationships – even (and especially) if you are single.
- This week we celebrate how far we’ve come in just eight weeks
- We hold this space as the opportunity to marry yourself and to make an oath (in front of your sisters) to never settle for less than your heart and soul desires
Weekly Live Sessions
- Eight, 90-minute sessions held via Zoom
- Wednesdays, 6:00 -7:30 PM CST, October 6th, 22 – December 1st, 2021
- All sessions will be recorded and available in your private membership portal afterwards
- Eight weeks of emails from me with a motivational video and feminine embodiment practice to keep you feeling in tune.
- Eight weekly Playbooks (workbooks) designed by me to help you find your voice and reconnect with your body, your soul and your inner wisdom.
Private Membership Portal
- Access to our private membership portal where you’ll have all your recorded sessions and PleasurePack workbooks in one convenient place.
Private Facebook Group
- A Private Facebook group for Your Big Sexy Comeback members only! In the group, you’ll get journal prompts, challenges, the support of your YBSC sisters, personal responses from me to your questions as well joy-fulled, pleasure-inspiring impromptu events!
Plus These Bonuses!
Bonus Session: What Men Really Want & Jenni’s Guide to Online Dating
- 90-minute session on online dating with guest appearance by my husband Jeff
- November 24th, 2021 6:00 – 7:30 PM CST
- Be sure to download this guide as you get ready to sign up for that dating app (gulp).
Still have questions Your Big Sexy Comeback?
Jenni Rochelle is leading a movement for women who have the audacity to live a bold, beautiful and sexy life by finding Beauty After Betrayal™. Jenni is a life coach and spiritual companion for women who are ready to heal from betrayal trauma by focusing on themselves and becoming the love of their own life.
In spite being a survivor of sexual betrayal trauma herself, Jenni has embraced her own right to great sex, big love and a healthy, beautiful life by remaining committed to heart and soul desires.
She is outrageously, happily remarried to a man who knows how to cherish and love her – for the first time in her life. More importantly, Jenni has come to believe that she is worthy of such love and can actually receive it!
Jenni is a certified life coach, yoga teacher and a spiritual director who has been trained according by the Association of Partners of Sex Addiction Trauma Specialists. She holds a Master of Arts in Spiritual Formation from the Episcopal Seminary of the Southwest.
Nevertheless, Jenni considers herself to be spiritual but not religious and focuses on meeting every woman wherever they are on their soul’s unique journey. Jenni is also a poet, a wife, a mom and a mystic who loves butter, coffee, bacon, traveling and pugs.
Once again, Your Big, Sexy Comeback includes:
1) Eight weeks of virtual sessions and private group mentorship to help you take that next step towards reclaiming your authentic, feminine power and stop settling for less than big love, great sex and a beautiful life. Sessions will be held from, 6:00 -7:30 PM CT on Wednesdays from October 6 to December 1, 2021, (Sessions will be recorded and available in your private member portal in case you miss one).
3) Eight weekly PleasurePacks (workbooks) designed by me to help you find your voice and reconnect with your body, your soul and your inner wisdom.
4) A private membership portal that will have all of your recorded calls, PleasurePacks and bonuses so you may access the materials at any time.
5) Private Facebook group for Your Big Sexy Comeback members only! In the group, you’ll get journal prompts, challenges, the support of your YBSC sisters, personal responses from me to your questions as well joy-fulled, pleasure-inspiring impromptu events!
PLUS These Bonuses:
Get on the waitlist for the next round!
I guarantee that if you show up, in-person every week and do the work (i.e. participate in the classes, complete the at-home practices, etc..) then you will get the results that you desire. If you do all of these in earnest and with your whole heart, and you are not satisfied within the first 14 days of the program (by August 5, 2021), then I will give you a full refund.
Frequently Asked Questions
What if I’m still in my marriage? Is Your Big Sexy Comeback still for me?
100% yes. Maybe this seems counterintuitive because I talk a lot about dating and learning to trust again but really – isn’t this new phase of your marriage kinda like a do-over? Have you really been showing up as your fully embodied and sexually-expressed self? My guess is that you have not and that’s why YBSC is still for you!
What if I’m still triggered by the thought of having sex again?
If I’m being honest, there was a long time in my life when I wasn’t sure whether I could ever date, love or trust someone again. For real, I wasn’t sure I could ever have sex again. I was determined, however, not to let my trauma keep me from having a healthy, beautiful life again. I know you are, too. That’s why I created YBSC. I saw there was a need for a community where women healing from betrayal trauma could feel to talk about all that scares us.
Why is this a private group mentorship? What if I prefer private coaching?
The more I do this work of leading women who are ready to transform their lives, the more I believe that the most powerful transformation happens in groups. Don’t get me wrong – private coaching always has its time and its place. There is nothing more healing for your soul than being seen, loved, accepted and witnessed by other women on the same journey as you.
How do I know that you are the right coach for me?
First and foremost, it appears to me that either your heart or your intuition has led you to this place. Also, I know there are a lot of coaches out there who talk about how to find love again and how to have great sex. I’ve been in those groups and they are awesome – if you don’t have past betrayal or sexual trauma. I am a Betrayal Trauma Specialist and every woman in Your Big Sexy Comeback is healing from betrayal. This includes me!
When are the sessions? What if I miss one?
We’ll have eight 90-minute sessions held via Zoom on Wednesdays, 6:00 -7:30 PM CST from October 6th, 2021 – December 1st, 2021. All our sessions will be recorded and posted in our membership portal if you can’t make one.
“I felt like I was ‘fine’ when we started but I still struggled to talk about what happened without crying. I was conflicted and sad and intellectually knew what I wanted but was having a hard time dealing with that raw reaction. I had worked with a few different counselors and had very supportive friends and family – but could not quite figure out how to ‘move on’. Jenni’s social media content resonated and I felt like she was talking to me (I also knew her from a former life and knew she is awesome) so thought taking a different approach might be the thing I needed.”
~ Erika S.